New life, new resolutions, Colossians 3:18-4:1

In his letter to the Colossians, Paul has said that now that we are made new, since we have new birth, since we have new spiritual life, we need to put away the old and put on the new.   There should be a new resolve to live differently now that we are Christians.  Our life is not the same and so our behavior should not be the same.  Furthermore, Paul says that in this new life we should emulate Christ in our attitudes, in our actions, and our behavior.

So as Christians who have a new life in Christ,  so we must also have a new way of living.  Our relationships with others is going to be changed.  Our behavior towards others will be different.  And in that context, Paul through the inspiration of the Holy Spirit lays out our duty as Christians in our relationship to our spouse, to our family, and in our work environment. These areas of our lives are ones which should be most impactful as Christians. I believe that the foundations of society are the church, the home and the workplace.  And so as Christians if we want to change society, if we want to impact the world for Christ, we start in these areas first.

So when there has been a change spiritually, then there will be a change in behavior, and especially that will be evident in the nature of relationships.  In this passage of scripture, Paul talks about a new kind of wife in vs 18, a new kind of husband in vs 19, a new kind of child in verse 20, a new kind of father in verse 21, a new kind of servant in verse 22, and a new kind of master in chapter 4, verse 1. After conversion, a Christian’s whole orientation to society is dramatically changed, because Jesus Christ has entered their life.  There is a new, controlling authority in their lives which dramatically affects the way that they live.

Now today there is a lot of pushback on some of these principles because society believes that there is no place for submission to authority anymore.  There is a modern emphasis on the individuals rights and freedoms that is at odds with what the scriptures tell us. Our culture especially doesn’t like to hear that wives are to be in subjection to their husbands.  And some young people don’t like to submit to the authority of their parents, or to the government, or even to the law. 

But there are many institutions of authority which God has established in the world.  Whether you like it or not, there are certain authorities and they are established by God. And make no mistake, this is not my idea of how life should be ordered. It’s the wisdom and design of our Creator for mankind. If you have a problem with any of it, then take it up with God. I’m just the messenger.  God has set forth certain  authorities and responsibilities for society.  There is the authority of government which is spelled out in detail in Romans 13.  There is the authority of the church and it’s leaders as indicated in 1 Peter. And in this passage and elsewhere we see that God has established authority in the home, in marriage, and in the workplace.

Now our scripture passage starts with a word a word to wives concerning submitting to authority in verse 18. “Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.” Notice, it does not say “women.” Of course, to be a wife you must be a woman.  That should be understood.  But the admonition is not to women in general to submit to men in general.  That is not what this scripture is teaching.  It is an admonition to wives.  So it is an admonition to women in a marriage relationship with their husband.

The KJV says to your own husbands.  So my wife is not being told to submit to another man who also happens to be a husband.  It’s not a general admonition for women to submit to men, but in the marriage relationship, the woman is to take the role of submission to the husband’s role of authority.  

The word “hypotassō” was a Greek military term meaning "to arrange [troop divisions] in a military fashion under the command of a leader".  Everyone recognizes that there is rank in the military, and a soldier is to obey someone who has a higher rank. So the implication here is that the wife is subject to her husband who has a higher authority than her.

But let’s be clear; submission doesn’t mean inferiority. It doesn’t mean the wife is inferior to her husband, not at all. Jesus wasn’t inferior to God the Father; but He submitted to the authority of the Father. Christ is equal to the Father, yet He submitted to Him.  In Phil. 2:5-8 it says, “Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus,  who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped (held onto),  but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, [and] being made in the likeness of men.  Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.”  So Jesus, though equal with God in divinity, submitted Himself to the Father by becoming obedient even to the point of death.  So equality does not negate the imperative to submission.  God has given the responsibility to the husband to be the leader in the marriage and in the home.  

Notice what be says at the end of verse 18, “as is fitting in the Lord.” The only justification for submission is because this is the way God designed marriage. I think it might be helpful to remind ourselves of how God designed marriage in creation.  Starting in Genesis 2 vs18 Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."  So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place.  The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.  The man said, "This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man."  For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”

So the order of creation should teach us the nature of marriage, and the nature of the relationship between husband and wife.  The woman was made for man, and made from man. She was made to be a helper to him. And in creation, God established that authority of the husband and the submission of the wife.  They have different roles in marriage. Even as Christ was submissive to the Father, yet equal in divinity. Creation teaches us the principle of Complementarianism.  Men and women weren’t created to be exactly equal in all aspects, but that each possessed qualities and characteristics that completed what was lacking in the other.  So that they are better together as one flesh. 

It’s also helpful to consider what it says in Eph 5:22-24 “Wives, [be subject] to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself [being] the Savior of the body.  But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives [ought to be] to their husbands in everything.”  So the wife is to have the same relationship to the husband as the church has to Christ. That’s an astonishing principle and one which deserves to have a sermon just on that principle alone.  But we haven’t got time today.

But it also puts a tremendous responsibility on the husband to be like Christ. Eph.5:25 says,  “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” And that brings us back to our text to the admonition to husbands in vs 19, “Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them.” Now these commands to the husband and the wife are not contingent upon the other party keeping their end of the deal.  Love is not contingent upon the other party responding a certain way.  Agape love is not necessarily reciprocal.  But the command is for the wife to be subject to her husband’s authority, and for the husband to love his wife. The command is to continue acting in love.  I would say that the command is for the husband to serve his wife, and not necessarily for the wife to serve her husband.  And that’s where a lot of men get it backwards.

A lot of men are all lovey dovey until they get what they want.  And then they become self serving.  But agape love is focused on serving the other to the point of self sacrifice.  Love is not simply a feeling. Love is commitment. Love is the act of putting aside your prerogatives for the sake of another, to see them built up and edified.  To see them benefitted. 

If husbands truly loved their wives with a self sacrificing love, seeking her benefit and not his own, then I don’t think there would be a lot of wives having problems with being subject to him.  The problem is that too often men seek their own benefit, and demand the wife submit to that. But as each serves the other then both are benefitted.

The second part of this admonition is “do not be embittered against them.”  Some have suggested that this word “embitter” should be translated “harsh.” “Don’t be harsh toward them.” Well, both interpretations emphasizes a harshness of temper. Harshness produces resentment that leads to misery, and often leads to divorce. In the Greek it’s pikrainō that is the verb here, it could be translated as “exasperate” or “irritate.” “Don’t irritate your wife. Don’t exasperate your wife. Don’t be harsh towards your wife.”  I would suggest that the way to not exasperate your wife is you don’t lord your authority over her.  You don’t treat her as less than an equal.  You may not be equal in size or strength or in some physical characteristic, but you treat her as an equal in consideration of her dignity as a person, in her intelligence, in regards to her opinion and intuition.

You know, with authority comes responsibility.  And in marriage the man is given a serious responsibility. Your family is going to follow your lead.  They are going to follow your wisdom or your ignorance.  If you make a mistake, they are going to suffer with you. It’s a great responsibility to have authority in the family.  You better lean on God’s word for wisdom.  And if you’re smart, you better lean on your wife’s intuition.

But I will also say this.  I think a lot of men duck their responsibility to lead their family, especially in the realm of spiritual things.  And so the wife dutifully picks up the slack, and the man is actually relieved that he doesn’t have to make those decisions.  But there are consequences to that dereliction of duty that may take years to come out, but they will eventually hurt the relationship.  One thing for sure, is it will hurt the man’s relationship with the Lord.  

Wives, you need to support your husband in becoming the spiritual leader in your house.  He may not be as smart as you in things of the Lord.  He may not be as spiritually mature as you.  But if you don’t encourage him to accept that responsibility then you damn him to be forever immature and unspiritual.  And that’s going to work against your home and your marriage more than you can possibly realize at this point.  Don’t fall for the temptation of the devil to overstep your husband’s authority and take the lead.  Eve took the lead, and Adam was willing to submit to her.  And look what happened as a result to the human family.

As archaic as this may sound today, I would suggest that the Christian husband should be chivalrous towards his wife.  He should protect her, cherish her, honor her, give preference to her, serve her, even as Christ served the church.  If we loved our wives that way, I don’t think there would be too much problem with the wife not being submissive to the husband.  I think that part would come naturally.

The next admonition is directed to children. Vs 20 says,  “Children, be obedient to your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord.” Now one question that immediately comes to mind is who qualifies as children here in this verse?  “Children,” ta tekna, is a very general word for a child, an offspring. It could be any age. What it basically means is,  anybody who is still under parental guidance. You stop being a child biblically in terms of this word when you go out to establish your own independence and your own life. As long as you’re in the home, as long as your parents are responsible for you, as long as you’re under their leadership and authority, you have one command.

You know there’s only one command in the entire Bible given to children or young people living in their home with their parents. That one command and the only command is to obey your parents in everything; that’s it. Ephesians 6: 1 states it even more clearly, basically restating the Old Testament commandment.  Eph 6:1-3 "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise),  SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH.”

One of the hallmarks of the last days, according to 2 Timothy 3:2, is that children will be disobedient to parents.  Children today are taught to think that authority is something terrible, as unnecessarily restrictive.  And parents contribute to this by trying to be their child’s friend, rather than being their parent. I think a lot of parents fail to properly exercise their authority, to properly maintain any discipline or control over their kids, and then because they are such poor parents, they then try to mollify the situation by overcompensating in terms of permissiveness and buying them things.  They excuse their own lack of discipline as a parent by saying “Well, I just want them to be happy.”  But when there is no discipline, no boundaries, no guiding influence, then the child just ends up miserable and feeling like the parent doesn’t love them.

The unspoken command in this verse is actually directed to the parents.  To exercise their authority and their responsibility to raise their children in the admonition of the Lord. So that the child will live in such as way to be well pleasing to the Lord, according to vs 20.  In Ephesians 6:1 notice that it says obey your parents in the Lord. That’s the same idea.  According to the desire of the Lord, to be pleasing to the Lord. 

And I would remind you that Jesus when He was a child was under the authority of His parents, and He was obedient and submissive to them.  The Holy Son of God, God Incarnate, yet subject to Mary and Joseph. And yet it was God’s will.  It was pleasing to God.  In Luke 2:51 it says,  “And [Jesus] went down with them and came to Nazareth, and He continued in subjection to them; and His mother treasured all these things in her heart. And Jesus kept increasing in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men.”  So no matter how smart little Johnny may be, if Jesus could be subject to the authority of his parents then so can he.

Then Paul addresses the other side of the coin in child rearing in vs 21,  “Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.”  There are some commentators who say this word translated “fathers” is broad enough to cover both parents.  That may be so. I think though it is given to remind fathers that it’s their responsibility to raise the children. It’s not something that should be just left to the mother.  The fathers are the governing authority so to speak.  I remember well my mother saying, “Just wait till your Dad gets home.”  And I remember thinking, “I am happy to wait.”  I knew that when he got home there would be a reckoning, and I didn’t look forward to it one bit.

But this admonition to fathers not to exasperate, or irritate some versions translate it, is a pretty broad statement.  It doesn’t mean that we don’t exercise authority, or not administer discipline.  But perhaps it means that we do not use a heavy hand in doing so. It’s not always conducive to have the attitude that it’s my way or the highway.  I have talked to a number of fathers that thought that they had to lay down the law and then issue an ultimatum, either do what I say or hit the road.  And sometimes the child hit the road and was never heard from again.  You can’t raise a child you don’t have.  

I remember the worse whipping I ever got when I was a boy. And let me tell you, it was a whipping and not a spanking. My father thought I had tried to run away from home. And he never gave me a chance to explain. I’ll never forget that.  Parents, fathers especially, talk to your children.  Listen to them.  Don’t just exercise your authority without considering their feelings and what they might be going through. You know the Lord is our heavenly Father.  And if He always gave us what we deserved when we broke HIs law then who could possibly stand?  But He forgives.  He is gracious.  He loves us and administers discipline for our good, not just for punishment’s sake.

The last category Paul addresses is employee, employer relations.  Let’s read the part applicable to employees first starting in  vs22 , “Slaves, in all things obey those who are your masters on earth, not with external service, as those who [merely] please men, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord.  Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men,  knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve.  For he who does wrong will receive the consequences of the wrong which he has done, and that without partiality.”

Now Paul addresses this section specifically to slaves or servants.  But I think the admonition is applicable to employees.  In ancient Rome it is estimated that there were 60 million slaves in that society.  It was a vital part of the economy, it was a vital part of society.  60 million slaves would have been a very large segment of the population.  And it is a fact that a large percentage of the church were slaves. And by the way, slavery wasn’t restricted to only certain races.  In fact, the Jews as a nation were enslaved in Egypt for 400 years.  That’s longer than slavery was practiced in this country.  In the Roman Empire, practically all nationalities of people could be slaves except Roman citizens. Even doctors and teachers were commonly slaves.  It has been said that the early Christian church was one of the only places in the known world in which slaves were considered to be on equal footing with slave owners.  In the church, in Christ, there was neither slave nor free.  But in society, it was a part of life which was not able to be easily done away with.

It’s also been suggested that the spread of Christianity was the primary means by which slavery was eventually eliminated throughout the world.  The Great Awakening spawned a spiritual realization that slavery was something that needed to be abolished, and within less than a century it had been outlawed in both America and England and soon throughout the civilized world.

But I really do not want to make this about the evils of slavery today, and what the Bible says and doesn’t say about it.  I think the primary point Paul is making here is in regards to employee relations.  When you agree to work for someone for a wage, you in effect are serving that person or that business for the hours that you have committed to. Some employers demand more than others.  But for the most part, it’s safe to say that you abrogate a lot of your freedom and your rights when you go to work.  The business, or the boss, is now the governing authority over that part of your life.  In the manner of Paul’s speech, to some extent you are a servant and they are your master on earth.

So what does it say regarding employees then? To obey those who are your master, or your boss, or your employer.  And not with just external service as those who merely work to please men.  In other words, don’t just work when our supervisor may be watching, and when they are not watching then you have a different work ethic.  But work as unto the Lord who is always watching.  Do your work as unto the Lord.  It goes back to vs 17, “Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.”

I told the story of the cobbler last week. I won’t retell it.  If you missed it, you missed one of my very few illustrations that aren’t found in the Bible.  But the cobbler wouldn’t cut corners, even though the customer would never know the difference.  And the reason he didn’t do that was because he did it as unto the Lord. You know, the Christian employee should be the best employee on the job site. That’s basically what Paul is saying. Your attitude, your work ethic, is your testimony to a watching world.  And to do it as unto the Lord means that you will find favor with God and man.

And Paul includes in that admonition a warning that if you do what is wrong you will receive the consequences of that wrong, and that without partiality. The Bible teaches that there are inherent consequences to sin.  And when you sin, those inherent consequences take effect.  God will not always deliver you from the consequences of your sin.  He will forgive you if you repent, but he may still allow the consequences of sin to take effect.  I know a few guys in prison who are living testimonies to the inherent consequences of doing wrong.  

And what else Paul seems to indicate is that the employer has a responsibly to administer justice to those who do wrong.  And if he doesn’t, then it’s possible that God will. Because God is a God of justice.   God will reward you for how you worked here on earth, and He will punish you for how you worked here on earth.  If we are Christians, we have a higher authority than our boss who is watching us.  Let us work for our heavenly reward.  Even if you are slighted here on earth and don’t get that raise, or promotion that you think you deserve, God says He will reward us for our work.  Vs 24, “knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve.”  Do your work as unto the Lord.

The last admonition then is to employers.  And for that we look at chapter 4 vs 1, “Masters, grant to your slaves justice and fairness, knowing that you too have a Master in heaven.” If you are an employer, then God says you have the responsibility to be just and fair.  At the end of chapter 3 we saw that God is concerned about justice in the workplace and also fairness.  And so as the governing authority in the workplace which is established by God, masters or managers or CEO’s are to administer justice and fairness, because they will be judged by the same standard with which they judged.  Jesus said in Matt. 7:2  "For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.” God is going to judge managers, and bosses and CEO’s according to His justice and fairness.

So in conclusion, I want you to notice that in all of these admonitions, to each of the parties involved, whether it be wives, or husbands, or children, or parents, or employees or employers, all of them as Christians should live a life that is lived as unto the Lord.  In vs 18 it says, “as is fitting in the Lord.”  In vs 20 it is “well pleasing to the Lord”. In vs 22 it is “fearing the Lord.” In vs 23 it is “as for the Lord.” In vs 24 “It is the Lord Christ whom you serve.” And in ch4 vs 1 it is “you too have a Master in heaven.”  The over arching theme is found in vs 23, “Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men.”  

And in so doing, we will be found to be pleasing to the Lord, and gain favor with God and men. Let us resolve in this new life in Christ, to live in a way that is pleasing to Him and is a reflection of Him to the world. Our greatest testimony of the power of salvation to a watching world is not a gospel tract, but a changed life.

The life of the new man, Colossians 3:12-17

Today we continue in our study of the epistle to the Colossians.  And as a matter of context, I would remind you that Paul, in chapter three, began by speaking to those who have been saved, to those who have received new life in Christ, saying “since you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God.

Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth.”

So from that we learned that since we have a new life in Christ, then our perspective in life should be spiritual, and not physical.  We are to seek those things which come from above, and not the things which come from below.  In other words, our focus should be on Christ and the things of Christ, and no longer should our focus be on the natural, the physical, the focus of the world.  We should walk by the Spirit, and not according to the physical.

But Paul is not advocating that we all go live in a monastery and remove ourself from all creature comforts and from society.  No, we are to be in the world, but not of the world.  Jesus said in John 17 that He sent his disciples into the world, but that they were not of the world, just as He was not of the world.  So if we are not of the world, but we are in the world, then that means the world does not influence us, but we influence the world. Or to use an analogy, it’s like a boat which is in the water, but the water is not in the boat.

And Paul said that the way in which we do that is that we must die to the world in vs 3; "For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God.” Spiritually speaking, we died with Christ on the cross to our sins and the lusts of this world. But in the physical realm we must die to the world as well. However,  our new life is not to be some sort of ethereal, out of body kind of existence, but the spiritual is to be applied in the natural realm, so that our doctrine is lived out physically.  That which is spiritually true must be applied practically in our day to day life while on this earth.

Now to do that, you will remember that Paul gave a list of sinful behaviors which are endemic to this world, and he said that we must put those things to death.  These are things which must be put off, or put to death.  Remember we used the analogy of having taken a bath, and being washed, made clean by salvation, we must throw away or put away those filthy clothes which were representative of our old man, and put on new clothes of righteousness, by godly living. 

So last week we looked at the old behaviors, the old lifestyles which must be put off; and they were immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which Paul said amounts to idolatry.  In addition to those, Paul said put these aside as well: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth.  And do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices.

At the new birth, we are born again spiritually.  We receive the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, the Spirit of Christ which regenerates our spirit.  So now the mind and the body are to be under the rule of the Spirit within us.  The Spirit within us dictates how our mind and body should act. 

As a result, you are a new man, a new creation, old things are passed away, so lay aside the old self with it’s evil practices, and put on the new self, the new body and mind, which is being remade or renewed in the image of Jesus Christ.  We should walk in His footsteps, following His example.  The old sins of the flesh have no part in this new creation.  So in keeping with who we are in Christ, let us put on the deeds of Christ.  That’s what Paul talks about in Eph. 2:10 saying, “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.”

Notice then that Paul begins this section starting in vs 12 by saying, “So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on…”  We are chosen of God, holy and beloved. That’s a three fold expression of our salvation.  We are God’s chosen people, foreordained before the creation of the world, elected unto salvation.  God chose us to believe in Him and be saved.

Secondly, we are holy - that is we have been credited with the righteousness of Christ, and set apart for good works.  We have a different purpose.  God has chosen us not for profane things,  but for godliness.  Set apart for good works.  Set apart as a royal priesthood.  Set apart as ambassadors for God. And beloved means we are loved as the children of God. 1John 3:1 says, “See how great a love the Father has bestowed on us, that we would be called children of God; and such we are.” We are His offspring.  You love your children in a special way that’s hard to explain.  It’s an unconditional love.  An unfailing love.  That’s the love we have from God when we are born again by Him. Beloved by our Heavenly Father.  And so those descriptions define us as Christians.  And since we are Christians, Paul says we are to put on certain things.

Now once again in our text Paul utilizes the analogy of clothing, put off the old, and put on the new clothing which we have in Christ.  You know, when I was a kid, growing up in a Christian home, we were expected to dress a certain way, to have short hair, women wore dresses and not pants. There was a lot of emphasis on how you dressed outwardly in comparison to the world. But it’s interesting that Paul mentions nothing about outward clothing standards, but he speaks of inward clothing. In the Christian life, Paul is saying, we should be adorned spiritually in the kind of attitudes are manifested outwardly,  that identifies us with Christ, the clothes of righteousness.

The first article of our clothing we should put on according to vs 12 is compassion.  This is a good example of how the KJV’s wording is a little difficult for people today.  In the KJV, it reads bowels of mercy.  We don’t use that expression today, thank goodness.  If you spoke of bowels of mercy today, people might not know what you are trying to say, and quite possibly point you in the direction of the nearest bathroom.  But bowels of mercy actually comes from a Hebraic expression which is best translated compassion.  It’s similar to an expression which we still hear today sometimes, someone may say "I have a gut feeling about something.”  It’s sort of an emotive response.  

Compassion is related to a feeling of sympathy or empathy. We should put on sympathy and empathy for others.  That means you feel what it’s like to be in their position. Jesus was often moved to compassion when He ministered to the people of His day and consequently fed them or healed them.  Because He felt sympathy for them.  He understood their dilemma, their fear, their concerns and His desire was to help them.  Compassion should be a characteristic of the Christian.  Not condemnation, not unconcern, but compassion. Especially compassion for those who do not know Christ.

Secondly Paul says put on the garment of kindness.  Being friendly, generous and considerate.  And I will say that kindness is the result or outcome of compassion.  Compassion should move you to act in kindness.  You feel compassion so you act in kindness.

Thirdly, he says put on humility.  Humility is the opposite of pride, of ego. Humility is the garment of a servant.  Pride and arrogance acts for their own benefit, but the humble acts for another person’s benefit.  Jesus was humble, so we should be humble.   He came not to be served, but to serve.  Phl. 2:5-8 says, "Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus,  who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped,  but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, [and] being made in the likeness of men.  Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.”  So humility is being more concerned for other’s well being than for your own ego.

Fourth characteristic we should be clothed with is meekness, or gentleness.  I prefer the word meekness.  Meekness is not weakness.  A lot of times it’s misinterpreted as weakness.  But it actually comes from a word associated with a horse, meaning strength under control.  A horse is very powerful, but he is under the control of his rider.  And so we should exhibit and practice meekness, strength under the control of our Master.

Then added to that list Paul gives patience, or forbearance. Forbearance or patience has to do with recognizing the weakness or shortcoming of another, but accepting it.  Don’t get me wrong, Paul is not saying that we wink at sin.  But it means that we recognize that we are all weak, we are all human, and not expecting perfection in someone else when you are not perfect yourself.  In other words, don’t be quick to judge, don’t be quick to condemn, don’t be quick to retaliate.  God is patient with us, is He not?  I know He certainly is with me. They use the word forbearance sometimes in the loan business.  You owe a debt, but the bank gives you a forbearance.  It means that they will not collect that debt.  When someone offends you or sins against you, you don’t collect.  You don’t bring judgment upon them.

2Peter 3:9 says,  “The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance.” Patience is crucial to bringing someone to repentance.

The next attribute Paul gives is bearing with one another.  It sounds like it might be similar to forbearance. But this means bearing one another’s burdens.  When you see a weakness in someone else, rather than condemn them for it and stand aloof from their problems, stoop to help them bear their burden.  Paul says in Gal. 6:2 “Bear one another's burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.”

Next, Paul says put on the attribute of forgiveness.  To forgive means to not bring up those things later on in some argument, to  bring up some hurtful thing from the past and use it against them.  To forgive is to put the offense away.  Many of us have been hurt by someone.  Maybe it was your spouse.  Maybe a loved one or a close friend hurt you.  We are told to forgive them and not bring it back up again.  That’s tough, I know.  That doesn’t mean you have to be a door mat for the rest of your life and let them do it again and again.  But it does mean you are willing to forgive them and not hold a grudge.

In Matt. 18:21-22 Peter said, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?"  Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.”  Forgive, even as Jesus forgave us. In vs 13 Paul says, “forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.” Has the Lord forgiven you of your sins? Then forgive others also.

Then in vs 14 Paul gives us the last thing to put on; “Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity.”  Some have said in looking at this verse that what Paul is getting at here is the idea of a belt or what they might have called a girdle.  All of their undergarments and clothes would have been girded up with a belt.  It tied everything together. 

And that’s the superlative definition of love; it should be the motivation for all our behavior in this new life.  Not a sentimental feeling towards others.  Sentiment might be nice, but it’s not necessary. In fact, agape love is more likely to be what is expressed when it’s without sentiment.  You may not even like someone, yet you can still love them with a Christian love.  Love is charity.  Love is sacrificial. And it’s a response of our salvation.  We love because He first loved us. And so we should love others even when they are our enemies.  Even when they attempt to crucify us.  Love is a commitment, it’s a decision. And love is the belt of the church that holds us together.

Now that’s the last of the clothing we should put on in this new life.  But there are a couple of other points that Paul makes concerning what we should put in this new life.  The first is found in vs 15; “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful.”  What that verse literally says is let the peace of Christ be the arbiter in your hearts.  Now an arbiter is a person with the ultimate authority to settle a dispute.  So what that indicates is that there is going to be a battle in your heart between the new nature and the old nature.  The old nature is still there, but we are not under it’s control anymore.  We are supposed to be killing off the deeds of the flesh.  Because the flesh is at war with the Spirit.

But we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.  And as we submit to him as Lord, then we put to death the old man.  He is our peace.  He is the authority in our life.  And submission to Him gives us victory over the old nature.

Paul adds to that peace, to be thankful.  To have an attitude of gratitude.  When we focus on what we have in Christ we should be thankful and that gives us joy and peace.  But when we focus on what we think we are missing out on, then we find that the old nature rises up in jealousy for what we think we need.  We need to remind ourselves to be thankful.

Then in vs 16, Paul says what else we should put in.  “Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms [and] hymns [and] spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God.”

So the word of Christ is what we should put in this new man.  This is so important.  The word of Christ is what we feed on. It is the instruction manual for this new life.  It is our comfort.  It is the source of our power.  It is our guide.  I am reminded of Psalm 199:105 which says, “your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.”  If we are to walk by the Spirit in this new life, then we must walk by the word.

It’s very interesting to notice that in Ephesians we have almost the same wording as this verse and yet it is talking about being filled with the Spirit.  But in Colossians it says let the word of Christ dwell in you.  The characteristic of someone who is filled with the Spirit is not practicing a spiritual gift per se, but the parallel between Colossians and Ephesians shows that the Spirit filled person is the person in whom dwells the word of Christ.

Notice the correlation between these two texts.  Turn to Ephesians 5:18-20 “And do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit,  speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord;  always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God, even the Father.” 

You can see then as you compare this text with the Colossians 3 text the similarities.  Even the structure of the verses are similar.  And what that teaches is that the Spirit filled Christian is the word filled Christian.  The Holy Spirit is the author of the word.  So there is no distinction. Paul says that everything that we do in our assembling as a church, should be done with a view to instruction and admonishing and in the building up of the body. I would suggest to you then that the purpose of singing is to teach doctrine. You can also make the argument from both of these texts that it seems to indicate that the giving of thanks is also the purpose of singing.  And I will not dispute that with you.  However, it does not necessarily mean that, but it could mean that.  

But if you look at the Psalms for instance, you will find songs there which are very much thankful in nature, praising and extolling the virtues of the Lord.  You can also find songs which extol and praise the virtues of the word.  Psalm 119 for example, the longest chapter in the Bible, is all about the word of God.

But this idea that God is sitting around in heaven just wanting us to sing Him some praise songs is really a low perception of the character of God. God is not a narcissist.  He doesn’t need us to repeat you are holy fifty times in a song in order to feel good about himself.  I may sound sacrilegious when I say this.  But I really think that we do God a disservice in a lot of what we call praise music.  God is not so concerned about what we say as what we do.  We cannot give lip service to God, flattering Him and buttering Him up and then think we can go live the way we want.  To obey is better than sacrifice. 

So our teaching is to be the words of Christ.  Our singing is to be the words of Christ. And all that we do is to be done to build up the body in Christ.  So that we are conformed to the image of Christ. 

So what we should put on, what we need to put in, and then finally, what we need to put out.  Our lives should be an outworking of the Spirit of Christ within us.  Vs.16, “Whatever you do in word or deed, [do] all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.”  What Paul seems to do here is move from the specific to the general, giving as a final word the sweeping statement that whatever you do, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus.  The whole natural realm of life, all of our physical life, is to be done under that authority, and under the approval of the Lord Jesus Christ.  Whatever you do, do it as unto the Lord.

I read a story by Dr. Henry Ironside who pastored Moody Church in the early 20th century,  which I will read in closing that hopefully will illustrate this principle.  Dr. Ironside said; “When I was a boy, I felt it was both a duty and a privilege to help my widowed mother make ends meet by finding employment in vacation time, on Saturdays and other times when I did not have to be in school. For quite a while I worked for a Scottish shoemaker, or “cobbler,” as he preferred to be called, an Orkney man, named Dan Mackay. He was a forthright Christian and his little shop was a real testimony for Christ in the neighborhood. The walls were literally covered with Bible texts and pictures, generally taken from old-fashioned Scripture Sheet Almanacs, so that look where one would, he found the Word of God staring him in the face. On the little counter in front of the bench on which the owner of the shop sat, was a Bible, generally open, and a pile of gospel tracts. No package went out of that shop without a printed message wrapped inside. And whenever opportunity offered, the customers were spoken to kindly and tactfully about the importance of being born again and the blessedness of knowing that the soul is saved through faith in Christ. Many came back to ask for more literature or to inquire more particularly as to how they might find peace with God, with the blessed results that men and women were saved, frequently right in the shoe shop.

It was my chief responsibility to pound leather for shoe soles. A piece of cowhide would be cut to suit, then soaked in water. I had a flat piece of iron over my knees and, with a flat-headed hammer, I pounded these soles until they were hard and dry. It seemed an endless operation to me, and I wearied of it many times.

What made my task worse was the fact that, a block away, there was another shop that I passed going and coming to or from my home, and in it sat a jolly, godless cobbler who gathered the boys of the neighborhood about him and regaled them with lewd tales that made him dreaded by respectable parents as a menace to the community. Yet, somehow, he seemed to thrive and that perhaps to a greater extent than my employer, Mackay. As I looked in his window, I often noticed that he never pounded the soles at all, but took them from the water, nailed them on, damp as they were, and with the water splashing from them as he drove each nail in.

One day I ventured inside, something I had been warned never to do. Timidly, I said, “I notice you put the soles on while still wet. Are they just as good as if they were pounded?” He gave me a wicked leer as he answered, “They come back all the quicker this way, my boy!”

“Feeling I had learned something, I related the instance to my boss and suggested that I was perhaps wasting time in drying out the leather so carefully. Mr. Mackay stopped his work and opened his Bible to the passage that reads, “Whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.”

“Harry,” he said, “I do not cobble shoes just for the four bits and six bits  that I get from my customers. I am doing this for the glory of God. I expect to see every shoe I have ever repaired in a big pile at the judgment seat of Christ, and I do not want the Lord to say to me in that day, ‘Dan, this was a poor job. You did not do your best here.’ I want Him to be able to say, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant.’“

Then he went on to explain that just as some men are called to preach, so he was called to fix shoes, and that only as he did this well would his testimony count for God. It was a lesson I have never been able to forget. Often when I have been tempted to carelessness, and to slipshod effort, I have thought of that dear, devoted cobbler, and it has stirred me up to seek to do all as for Him who died to redeem me.” 

Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.