unable to find the door

Jesus said in Matthew 11:12 the kingdom of heaven suffers violence, and violent men take it by force. Men and women throughout the world are seeking after heaven, or eternal life and striving to gain it through means that are contrary to God’s way. In effect, they are struggling violently to push their way into heaven by their own strength or virtue or good deeds.
Yet Jesus said in Matthew 7:13, 14 that we have to "Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to life, and there are few who find it.” When you combine these two pictures presented in the scripture, you can imagine the people of the world blinded by sin, struggling to find the door, and perhaps even fighting to enter, only to discover too late that they entered the wrong door, the door that leads to destruction.
The rich young ruler typifies the approach that many are taking to reach the door. He came thinking he was keeping some standard of righteousness acceptable to his social status, puffed up in his religious fervor, perhaps earnestly seeking eternal life, only to be rebuffed by Jesus who demanded that first he forsake his riches and give them to the poor and then follow Him. The Bible says that he went away grieving because he had a lot of possessions.
The door to the kingdom of heaven is too narrow to bring anything with you. You have to be willing to leave everything on the other side. Jesus said in John 10:9 "I am the door; if anyone enters through Me, he will be saved, and will go in and out and find pasture". Many are seeking the kingdom and think they have found the door. But we need to be careful not to be attracted to the biggest, shiniest, most popular door. The door that Jesus offers is the least popular, the narrowest, the unattractive door, yet it is the one to the greatest spiritual blessings.
There is only one way into the kingdom of heaven, only one door and that is Jesus Christ. And there is only one way through that door. Naked, poor in spirit, beggars who realize that they have nothing to offer or barter with. “And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or farms for My name’s sake, shall receive many times as much, and shall inherit eternal life. But many who are first will be last and the last, first.” Matt. 19:29,30 No matter where you are in your walk with the Lord, be sure you are seeking the right door. There are many doors, but only one leads to life.